When my niece was little, my sister made it clear she wanted us to watch our words and try to give compliments that weren’t about physical appearance. So I often cut myself off: “Your dress is so prett—” Then I’d pivot to something like, “I’m so glad to see you!” Meanwhile, I grumbled under my breath because I couldn’t think of anything better, and I thought my sister was being overly sensitive.
But now, years later, I have a 12-year-old niece who is a tough cookie and bursting with confidence. I owe my sister an apology. The fact that I struggled to come up with kind words that were not related to my niece’s appearance should’ve been a clue that there’s a problem facing our girls. So next time you see your daughter, niece, or little girl from the house next door, instead of complimenting her appearance, try one of these 25 compliments for girls that aren’t based on looks.
Character-Based Compliments to Give Your Daughter
I’m proud of how _____ you are.
I love how you stick up for other kids.
I bet it was hard to control your temper just then. Good job.
You’re such a hard worker.
What you did took courage. Way to go.
That took patience. I’m impressed!
You never give up.
The effort you put in really shows.
Personality-Based Compliments to Give Your Daughter
You’re a lot of fun to be around.
You have great taste in ______.
You make _____ look effortless.
Your mind works in a unique way.
You tell the best stories.
You’re so good with animals.
I love how curious you are. That’s the best way to learn.
Your style is unique and inspiring.
You crack me up.
Feel-Good Compliments to Give Your Daughter
There’s no one in the world like you.
Your friends are lucky to have you.
God made you perfectly.
There’s something special about you.
You mean so much to me.
My life is better because you’re in it.
I’ve learned so much from you.
The world needs more girls like you.
What other compliments can we give our girls that aren’t based on appearance?
